At the company I worked after my NYSC, there were two ladies who seemed to have this tension around each other it was unspoken but it was there, let’s give them names Cookie and Cupcake. Cookie was our HR/ Admin staff while Cupcake was a Cooperate Relations Executive like me. Cupcake bakes, so she brings cake to the office from time to time, the first day she brought cake she shared it to everyone at the office. All I knew was the toilet got clogged, it came to my knowledge later that day that Cookie tried flushing her own piece “maybe she didn’t like it”.
One day my boss decided to be random and asked everyone who their favorite and least favorite person was at the office for reasons that still baffles me till date. So Cookie was asked and Cupcake was present, Cookie said I was her favorite person 🙈😊😂 and she doesn’t have a least favorite person but Cupcake spoke up and was like “I know I am her least favorite person” and she mentioned the cake incident and Cookie explained that she was chewing the cake when she felt the sudden urge to pee, so rushed into the toilet with cake in her mouth then she felt irritated chewing on it in the toilet so she spat it in a tissue and tried flushing, then the toilet got clogged. Cupcake realized that it wasn’t as deep as she thought it was, only if they had addressed the issue immediately by communicating. The tension between them wasn’t killed but it was significantly reduced.
There used to be a time when I never expressed how I felt towards something someone would do to me even if it’s cut was deep, I’ll just harbor it which made me miserable because I knew I was giving the person the opportunity to hurt me again. Most times I just become really sad, till one day someone annoyed me and I told the person how I felt then the person apologized, it felt so good I just knew at that point that I had to express myself in a healthy way which is communicating. So till date if I have a problem with what you have done, I’ll call you out on it, in private and in the nicest way I can no matter how old you are, trust me I have gained more friends than enemies with this.
Basically communication stops unwanted bad energy. In my opinion most squabbles and quarrels are caused by misunderstandings, so sitting and talking makes you understand a person better and coexist. A lack of communication breeds assumptions of what the other person is thinking or feel which in most cases are incorrect. Communication isn’t just a thing it’s everything
If we all communicated better, do you know how many wars or riots that could have been avoided. Mama Bashir would not have been fighting with Ngozi this morning and causing a ruckus if they had just talked. So I urge y’all to talk to that parent, that co-worker, that friend, that class mate, that boss, that spouse. Even if you think you weren’t wrong, still call that person and just talk and remember to always be polite.
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