Finding and knowing who you really are is the greatest and most important adventure you could ever embark on. The society we live in today, no one is given the opportunity to be acquainted with themselves. The automatic setting is GO, so no one takes a break to know who they are and what they want which is why about 80% of us are unhappy. Everybody just seems to be conforming to the society. I never knew who I was and what I wanted once, and it was exhausting and depressing. I never knew I had so much creativity in me. Today I decided to give y’all a few tips on finding out who you really are, at least that was what I did to discover myself a little bit (lol I am still discovering myself, who knew I had rhythm in them feet).
Finding yourself may sound like a self centered activity but it isn’t, you have to know the real you to be the best version of yourself, to be the best partner, parent, friend etc. We need to know ourselves to be of value to our society. This is a journey every individual is required to take at some point in their lives, it’s a process that requires a tremendous amount of shedding and building up.
Reflect on your past
It is known that our past makes us who we are today, but we have the choice to change the future. In order to find ourselves we have to ponder on what made us who we are today, research has shown that it isn’t just the things that happened to us that define what we become, but what we make of what has happened to us. The attitudes and atmosphere we grew up in has an important role to play in how we act as adults.
When we try to cover up or hide our past, we tend to get lost and feel like we don’t really know ourselves. It may be hard sometimes but you have to confront your past to grow. Remember that this exercise isn’t about wallowing in self pity, it’s about learning what you have understood about yourself from past experiences.
Discover and celebrate what makes you, you and what makes you happy
It is said that we are our worst critic, we bring and talk ourselves down. On your quest to discovering who you really are it is important to discover what makes you who you are and what makes you happy. I heard a quote somewhere and it spoke to me; “you can’t be anything you want but you can be everything you are”.
My aunt asked me a question last year or so, she asked “Kosi, what is your passion..?, what drives you..?” As at that time, I had no idea what I was doing, hell I was trying to make it till the weekend. But thanks to Corona and joblessness I had so much time on my hand, so I invested that time in knowing me and trust me I am one hell of a journey. I found out I do a decent job with the pen, and I recently found out that I am excellent with the pencil also (I had no idea). Who knows what I would be discovering about myself in the nearest future maybe I would be excellent with at least two strings instruments or the piano.
Once you know this about yourself, your life would take an unexpected turn (a good one). These days I just do what makes me happy, and I am happier these days than I have been in the last 5 years.
I would be giving y’all more steps subsequently, but for now I think I have typed enough words to make up a post. I don’t want y’all getting bored, I hope this helps you.
Xoxo Coco
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