First, let’s take a moment to be grateful for the fact that we are in 2021 despite all the hurdles that 2020 made us jump over. Some people fell into those hurdles, but you are here reading this rubbish. This is my first official of 2021 (imagine confetti dropping from wherever).
Today I want to talk about something I haven’t really talked about, I decided to be more daring with my writing. I am sure y’all have noticed I have never really talked about relationships or love, the truth is that I suck at it. Y’all remember when I talked about my demons right? Well I am still trying to deal with it in the relationship aspect. Sometimes when I talk about relationships and love, people ask “who broke your heart?” Lol. I have never been heartbroken, I never invest enough to be hurt. I honestly envy people that give their all to their partners, I feel they are so courageous.
I don’t think people truly love these days, they just do a scale of preference and settle. We are all cowards, yeah including me; we are not looking for what we are dying to have, constantly living in fear of being used and getting hurt. We ask ourselves “what if I get hurt…?” Forgetting that there is a probably of us actually finding the one. We lie to ourselves, saying love doesn’t exist. Spoiler alert: love exists.
Then you would see people in relationships scared of showing their partners how much they feel for them, apparently showing how much you feel is sign of weakness and that’s sad. Our society has brainwashed us into finding strength in stupid things, it tells us being out of touch with our feelings makes us extremely strong (this is bullshit by the way). People take their bruised hearts into another relationship, which in turn bruises their partner’s heart, that’s how monsters are birthed and the cycle continues.
To love is reckless yet beautiful, so be reckless. This has to be our year of recklessness. Love your partner with all your heart, the world is filled with so much hate to be giving someone special a halfass love. Scale of preference and settling is why some men sit in their cars when they get home, till maybe their wife is asleep or why women prefer when their husbands are at work. Basically people tolerate each other till they eventually die.
Let that superficial wall down, let your guard down. So that you would stop shouting “God when..?” every time you see people that are in love, let people shout “God when..?” for you too now. No matter how we say that we don’t care, we are all craving to be loved and you can’t be loved if you don’t love. Wearing your heart on your sleeves doesn’t make you weak or look like a fool, on the contrary it makes you so strong and I admire it.
So I urge y’all to be reckless enough to love, I hear it’s a beautiful feeling. For those of us that have already found love make sure you remind them every opportunity you get how much you love them and how much they mean to you, don’t lose them because you are trying to show “strength”.
Xoxo Coco.
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