Some of us barely know who an asshole is that’s why we still entertain certain people in our lives. Basically an asshole is someone who makes you feel like dirt, someone who makes you feel like less than you actually are. An asshole could be your boss (lol most bosses are assholes), it could be that “over sabi” colleague, it could be that person that thinks they are funny by using people’s insecurities as a comic relief for others, it could be those people that enable them by laughing, it could be that person that likes to give their unsolicited advice and opinions, it could be that individual that says something hurtful and ends the statement with “I am just blunt” no sis you are just rude, it could be a friend, even a family member,or a lover.
In order to deal with an asshole it is ideal to be able to identify one, I realized that a lot of us can barely identify the assholes in our lives. So we still have relations with these people and that my friend is toxic, we still call these individuals friends or family. “You have an asshole problem if you are dealing with somebody who leaves you feeling demeaned, de-energized, or disrespected,” Robert Sutton a Stanford business professor wrote in his book The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal With People Who Treat You Like Dirt. Every one if exposed to the wrong situation becomes an asshole which is fine, but if it becomes a habit that’s what makes one an asshole.
I have dealt with so many assholes in this lifetime, it seems be a norm in our generation. People are being shitty to other people, and that’s sad. Do you ever wonder what makes someone so bitter that they are just so rude…? Well I do, but that isn’t the main aim of today’s post. Today I’d be giving you tips on how to deal with such people.
Some people would advise that you cut off such people, but that can’t be possible in some cases because we live or work with some of them. Lol and some of them are the source of our income, so that isn’t an option. Others would say fight back (it’s me, I am others), I always have a clap back for such people; you obviously have no right talking to me or anyone they way you do.
After so much thinking I think I have come up with the best way to deal with such people. All you need to do is communicate with the person about how they make you feel when they do what they do, this way you can deal with that shitty boss, friend, family member or a “rando” no matter their age. If the person respects you they would take correction and stop whatever they are doing to hurt you, and if they don’t I’d advice you cut all ties with them (quit if necessary) because if you don’t you’d me miserable and you would become an asshole also. Always know your worth, know you are amazing, talented, beautiful and sometimes quirky (never think otherwise or make anyone make you feel otherwise) knowing this would make you realize that it isn’t because of who you are people are assholes but because of who they are.
Note: if you tend to see a lot of people around you as an asshole, look inward you might be the asshole
Xoxo Coco 😘
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