Lol I know I literally talked about consistency last two weeks and I didn’t seem to take my own advice, that’s what makes me human. I seem to be forgetting a lot these days, I forgot to write something and before I knew what was happening it was freaking Friday or so (well to be fair, I treat everyday like a Friday… you know being jobless and all).
“Forgiveness is often defined as an individual, voluntary internal process of letting go of feelings and thoughts of resentment, bitterness, anger, and the need for vengeance and retribution toward someone who we believe has wronged us, including ourselves”. I never checked out the meaning of the the word “forgiveness”, but this definition covers almost everything I wanted to talk about today. Forgiveness is the stuff of everyday heroes, the ultimate measure of internal peace. Forgiveness to me is more of a gift to oneself than it is to the offender, I found out that holding a grudge is really stressful both emotionally and psychologically.
It was Alexander Pope that said “to err is human, to forgive is divine”, well I never saw it important to really know what that statement meant. Basically what Alexander Pope was trying to pass across was that it is very Humanlike to make mistakes but it is ultimately important to forgive those mistakes we make. It is important to let go of the hurt, the pain and most of all the anger. I always tell people that can’t forgive “how can you let someone have so much power over you..?”. Forgiveness is telling your offender that they have no power over you, you deserve peace of mind and you deserve to be free from corrosive anger.
Now that I have told you what forgiveness is, I think it would only be reasonable of me to tell you what forgiveness isn’t. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, or condoning and excusing offenses. Forgiveness isn’t tolerating a mediocre’s duck ups, although forgiveness has mended some relationships… forgiveness doesn’t force you to reunite with your offender or release them from the clutches of karma or the law.
I picked this topic today because I realized that a lot of us are wounded people creating more wounded people. Because we are holding on to some baggage, we judge other people before truly knowing them. Forgive so you could be able to enjoy the joys of life, don’t let it restrict you. “Experts agree that it at least involves letting go of deeply held negative feelings. In that way, it empowers you to recognize the pain you suffered without letting that pain define you, enabling you to heal and move on with your life.” So just forgive.
Xoxo Coco.
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